Spending Quality Time Has (Usually) Different Meanings For Men And Women
For most men I know, watching a game, drinking a beer, and not exchanging more than 20 words in one evening, can sometimes count as quality time spent together.
For most women I know, this would be frustrating and alienating if they were expecting to spend quality time with that person. If all they wanted was to watch a game, then they might be OK with this.
From my experience, as a person who has spending quality time language of love ranking number 2, such an evening would be perceived as frustrating if there would be no additional talking and connecting, during or after watching the game.
If I didn’t know about the languages of love and that quality time is important for me I wouldn’t have so easily identified the cause of my frustration when I was recently out with my mates.
10 years go I would have either blamed them for being rude or insensitive or pretend I was OK with the situation although I would continue to suffer on the inside. And I would have probably expressed that frustration into a passive aggressive behaviour later on. Thank God, I’ve learned a bit about myself in the last couple of years.
Openness is of the utmost importance. It is a standout amongst the most imperative qualities a solid relationship. Be that as it may, not everybody knows how to impart appropriately … on the other hand even impart by any means. Glad and sound couples have this diversion down. They vocalize their affection for each other, saying “I cherish you” regularly and offering compliments. They additionally talk about the terrible as opposed to clearing issues under the carpet. With a specific end goal to push ahead and develop, both of you should have the capacity to genuinely discuss your emotions. Regardless of how cumbersome or uncomfortable it feels, it will make for a dependable and satisfying relationship.